Category Archives: Balance

Happy Christmas from Mr Oh!

 

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A humungous Happy Christmas to you and your families wherever you may be!

Mucho thanks / merci beaucoup / vielen dank … for all your support and encouragement these past few months with the blog. I’ve really enjoyed meeting so many wonderfully inspiring people.

I am looking forward massively to all the adventures 2013 will bring. Lots of ideas and projects in the pipeline.

I wish you a fruitful and exciting New Year.

Rob x

(And thanks to Katharina and her two children from Zazumove for her part in inspiring the idea for the card above.)

 

If it’s all too much…

Life can get a little crowded, can’t it?

Sometimes a few of our activities could do with ending up on the editing floor. The result? We end up doing a little less but do it a whole lot better. We free ourselves up to rediscover what we really enjoy doing. We find focus.  And focus is fab.

So…I say cut, cut, cut. Edit your life, filter your joys, and feel the change.

It’s O.K. to be grumpy.

“Cheer up, lad, things could be worse.”

I hate it when a complete stranger says this to me. Sod off! I’m having one of those days, leave me alone! It will pass. I’m not like this all the time, you know. I’m actually a pretty positive person all in all. It’s just that when I’m not, people seem to notice more. If I was grumpy all the time, that would be different. But you know, when I get a grump on, I just indulge in it, almost laugh at it, knowing it will soon pass. So, I say, it’s O.K. to be grumpy once in a while. We’re allowed. Being positive ALL the time would just be weird.

Do positive people find it hard to say “No”?

No.

How much more negative can you get?

It can be a hard word to utter, especially if you are a positive person. Psychologytoday.com deem it to be “the most dangerous word in the world.” (Thanks to my best mate, Marty, from Cosmickids, for that one.)

It took me years and years to come round to the freedom and power saying “No” at appropriate times can give you. I used to exhaust myself feeling like I had to say yes to everything, like some kind of crazed Dice Man.  Opportunities are like bubbles: they go in an instant if you don’t take them. But some bubbles are better off floating up and away into the ether; it’s just about knowing which ones…

Live Slow, Die Old.

Live slow, die old. It doesn’t sound quite so Rock & Roll as “live fast, die young”, does it? But, don’t know about you, I want to stick around a while. Besides, my life is fast enough now thank you very much, without having to inject it with Turbo-charged activities. I did a lot of that when I was younger and my perspectives have shifted somewhat.

The teaching job I do is fantastic but it is fast-paced and can be as stressful as a pressure cooker if I let things build up. Sound familiar? I need to find ways of trying to keep a lid on it, find an inner pace, and not let my environment dictate.

One of the most influential books I’ve read on this is the fantastic, “In praise of SLOW” by Carl Honoré. I implore you to read it. He had the idea for the book when he woke up to the fact that the world had gone mad, on seeing an advert for “one-minute bedtime stories for children”.

What has the world come to?


Here are the top three things I try to remember to do that help me have a slow day and consequently, a stress-free and productive day. I wish I did them all the time as I do think they work. I’d love to hear how you benefit from slowness and how you go about it. It would be great to share ideas.
I don’t normally write this much, normally focusing on the drawings, but I’m pretty passionate about this one, so I’ve scribbled down more than usual…

Feel Good before breakfast
I try to start the day off doing some kind of exercise that gets me feeling good before breakfast and sets the tone for the day. Apart from optimising performance generally, it somehow calms me and helps set a slower pace.
It’s usually 20 minutes of yoga, 5 minutes of which is simple, slow breathing. Or running as fast as I can to get a sweat up for 20 minutes – which usually almost kills me, but then makes me feel good and helps me avoid stress later in the day.
The mantra or daily motto of “feeling good before breakfast” was inspired by Patricia Ryan Madson’s book, “Improv Wisdom” where she talks of rituals, in her brilliant chapter, entitled, “just show up.” Just by putting ourselves in a place where good things can happen, the rest will follow.

Walk slowly around at work
So many things can seem urgent at work and the “pressing engagement” mindset and expectation to do things straight away can be infectious. One way I try to combat this is by purposefully walking slower than all my colleagues. I don’t care what they might think of this, if they think I’m slow or laid back as I know the work I do when I get back to my desk or classroom is up to snuff.

Punctuate the day with micro-meditations
I find practising this really hard but I know it works. Trying to stay in the moment at key times in the day helps me try to focus on the now, avoid stress, appreciate nature and see the wonder of smallness.
One of the key times for this is drinking cups of tea throughout the day – I mean really drinking those cups of tea: consciously feeling the contours and texture of the bone-china cup between the fingers; noticing the playful shapes of the steam rising from a hot brew; carefully pouring then focusing on the taste and feeling of the swishing liquid in the mouth.
Another favourite of mine is when I get to school in the car, I do three long deep-breath sighs, then slowly focus on turning the ignition off, noticing the chugging of the engine dying down, then slowly open the door. I find I have put the day on pause for a moment. Days I don’t do this, I get out of the car quickly and onto the treadmill.
Other examples of times to do this are focusing on the tastes and smells at lunchtime, or letting the senses appreciate the details of flowers.
There are hundreds of opportunities throughout the day that can be seen as “hooks” on which to hang a simple 20 second or more micro-meditation. Fact is, we usually ain’t got time to look at candles and chill for 20 minutes during a working day, so the more times we punctuate the day with smaller, more manageable meditations, the richer, slower, and more meaningful our days get. I recommend “The 5 minute meditator”, by Eric Harrison as a simple and practical guide.

When my two-year-old waved me off to work this morning I realised…

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